Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco’s Relationship: Timeline of Their Romance

Years before they became an item, Gomez and Blanco collaborated on the producer’s song “I Can’t Get Enough,” which also featured J Balvin and Tainy. In March 2019, the quartet released a music video for the track, complete with flirty shots of the Spring Breakers actress interacting with Blanco in a teddy bear costume.

Though it may have just been a cheeky teaser for her then unreleased song “Single Soon,” Gomez posted a hilarious TikTok announcing her solo status to a team of soccer players. “I’m single! I’m just a little high maintenance,” she yells in the clip.

“Single Soon,” Gomez’s first and only release of 2023, arrived in August, and was co-produced by Blanco and Cashmere Cat. Gomez would later reveal in December that she’d been dating Blanco for about six months, meaning they were likely already dating when the song dropped.

In October 2023, Gomez hosted her inaugural Rare Impact Fund Benefit, which supported youth mental health. And guess who was on the guest list? One Benny Blanco. And though they hadn’t yet gone public with their relationship at the time, the pair was already an item at this point.

Following rumors of the pair’s romance, Gomez confirmed her relationship with Blanco in a series of comments to fans on Instagram. “He is my absolute everything in my heart,” she commented on a since-deleted Instagram post by a fan account, before replying to other commenters. “I don’t understand. If you actually care about me. This is my happiest. If you don’t, feel free to say whatever you want. But I will never allow your words to guide my life. Ever. I’m done. If you can’t accept me at my happiest then don’t be in [my] life at all.”

She also said at the time that she and the producer had already been dating for half a year by that point, telling one fan, “It’s been 6 months bb.”

Gomez followed up her comments about her relationship with a few photos of Blanco on her Instagram Story, as well as a snap of a letter “B” ring — presumably a tribute to her new beau’s initials.

Gomez shared her first pictures with Blanco on her Instagram feed, including one of the couple posing with a group of friends and one of the producer wrapping her in a romantic kiss.

Days after the “Calm Down” singer confirmed her romance with Blanco, her cover story with Vogue México y Latinoamérica went live. In the interview, she revealed that she prioritizes a “special connection” with a partner that “allows for self-respect and holds space for the feelings of others.”

“Honestly, I have to start being attracted to the right kind of people, because it’s a bit of both,” she added at the time. “It’s very hard to find someone who can listen to you and care about you, but I know when it happens it will be great and you will want it to be healthy.”

Just a couple days after Christmas, the Only Murders in the Building star posted snaps from her date with Blanco at what appeared to be Luna Luna: Forgotten Fantasy, an amusement park-inspired art exhibit in Los Angeles. In addition to a cuddly couple’s selfie in front of a many-mirrored structure, Gomez shared a picture of Blanco admiring the same pink-hued construction (see below).

Gomez and Blanco rang in 2024 together, based on a picture of the couple the “Lose You to Love Me” singer shared on her Instagram Story over New Year’s weekend. In the snap, the producer sweetly wraps his arms around Gomez and appears to kiss her, while she holds his arm and leans her head into him.

Gomez and Blanco kicked off the new year by embarking on their first public outing together, attending a Los Angeles Lakers home game and cuddling up courtside.

Shortly after the 2024 Golden Globes wrapped, Gomez shared a photo on her Instagram Story of her smooching Blanco in what appeared to be a backstage storage room filled with boxes. The singer-actress was still in her crimson Giorgio Armani gown in the snap, while the pop music engineer sported a suit jacket and gold necklaces.

And even though Gomez lost for best TV performance by a female actor, musical or comedy, she definitely left feeling like a victor that night. “I won,” she sweetly captioned her photo with Blanco.

Gomez brought Blanco to the 2024 Emmys, where her show with co-stars Martin Short and Steve Martin Only Murders in the Building was nominated for best comedy series. (The award ended up going to FX’s hit project The Bear.) In one clip from the night, the producer blew a kiss to Gomez before parting ways with the actress so that she could take on the red carpet solo.

Afterward, Blanco joined the “Love On” singer in taking their seats inside Los Angeles’ Peacock Theater next to Short and Martin.

Gomez commemorated V-Day by sharing a selfie on Instagram Stories of her and Blanco flashing peace signs for the camera. “I love you,” she captioned the post, simply but powerfully.

In an interview with Zane Lowe for Apple Music 1, Gomez opened up about the security Blanco gives her.

“Without getting into too much detail, I think it’s just really important to meet someone that respects you,” she told the radio host. “And I think it’s really nice to also lean on someone who understands the world that I live in.”

“I’d have to say overall, it’s the safest that I feel and it’s been really lovely,” she added. “I’ve only grown through it, so it’s awesome.”

In an interview with the Wall Street Journal, Blanco revealed that he first realized he had feelings for Gomez while the pair were in a recording session together. “I was the last one to know,” he noted. “It’s crazy how your partner could just be sitting there the whole time, right in front of your eyes, and you don’t even notice, and then you have that Clueless moment where you’re like, ‘Wait, I’m in love.’”

The producer also told the publication that he and the singer, who share a passion for cooking, often work together in the kitchen. At one point, they collaborated on a steakhouse dinner for their families, with Gomez’s corn casserole and his own corn bread with honey butter stealing the show.

During an interview on The Howard Stern Show, Blanco was forthright about his longterm plans with Gomez: having kids, which he hinted at wanting sooner rather than later. “That’s my next goal, to check the box,” the hitmaker said of becoming a father. “It’s always a topic of conversation to me every day.”

As for proposing, Blanco said of Gomez, “I take everything a day at a time and I just know that when I look at her, I just say, ‘I don’t know a world where it could be better than this.’ That’s what I always say to her.”

Gomez said in her May TIME100 cover story that she’s also all aboard the parenthood train. Of Blanco’s remarks on Stern’s show, she joked, “He can’t lie to save his life … If he’s asked a question, he’ll answer it.”

The star went on to reveal that even if she hadn’t started dating Blanco, she would’ve had kids on her own anyway. “I was alone for five years, and I got really used to it,” she told the publication. “I probably tortured myself in my head for like two years being alone, and then I kind of accepted it. Then I came up with my plan, which was I was going to adopt at 35 if I had not met anyone.”

In an adorable TikTok, Gomez and Blanco revealed details about their respective roles in the relationship, including who said “I love you” first. (Spoiler: it was Gomez.)

On her 32nd birthday, Gomez celebrated by the beach with Blanco and some friends and showed off her letter “B” charm necklace on social media. Plus, the producer made a sappy post reflecting on one of their first collaborations: “I Can’t Get Enough” with Tainy and J Balvin, for which he dressed as a white teddy bear.

“i used to play a teddy bear in ur music video and now i get to b urs in real life… happy bday bb ! i love u !” he wrote. Later that day, Gomez posted a photo of him kissing her forehead on her Story and wrote, “Love of my life.”

In her Vanity Fair cover story published Sept. 9, Gomez gushed about her boyfriend and her excitement to start a family someday while revealing that she won’t be able to experience pregnancy due to medical issues. “I haven’t ever said this,” she told the publication. “But I unfortunately can’t carry my own children. I have a lot of medical issues that would put my life and the baby’s in jeopardy. That was something I had to grieve for a while.”

“I’ve never been loved this way,” she added of Blanco, noting that she’s open to starting her family via surrogacy or adoption. “He’s just been a light. A complete light in my life. He’s my best friend. I love telling him everything.”

Pop the champagne! Gomez announced in an Instagram post that she and her producer beau are engaged. “forever begins now..” she captioned her carousel of photos, which began with a closeup snap of her ring. Commented Blanco on the post, “hey wait… that’s my wife”